Hero Joaquin – 3 Month Update/Catch Up/Recap!

As you can all imagine, the last few months have been incredibly intense.  I won’t even get into the hospital trauma where I almost died (that’s for another time).  Instead, I just want to jump forward past all the horrendous stuff and adjust my focus on the good – Joaquin!

Here’s a fun journey of his life, thus far, through pictures!

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Proud mama bird.  Every pound I gained was a victory with chemo keeping me from any serious appetite.

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At 20 weeks. The same week we started chemo

Just after delivery. Even though he was only 1.5 lbs, we never had any doubt that he'd make it home

Just after delivery 7/8/2015. Even though he was only 1.5 lbs, we never had any doubt that he’d make it home

Little Fighter

Little Fighter

First time I got to hold him

First time I got to hold him.  I was in so much pain from the spinal headaches but none of it mattered when I got to hold him

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Sasha’s first time holding him

When I was too sick to be with him, we found ways to be together

A few days after delivery, I ended up in the ICU with a blood pressure related brain damage that resolved itself 6 weeks later.  During that time, it was almost impossible for me to get to the NICU, so when I was too sick to be with him, we found ways to be together

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                 Either the nurses would send me     photographs, or I’d get to FaceTime with him. It made me feel so much better just getting to see him

Together again

Together again.  When I had the strength, this was the ideal way to be with Joaquin.

Hero Joaquin two weeks old

Hero Joaquin two weeks old

Sasha's wedding band around his wrist

Sasha’s wedding band around his wrist.  This image really reminds us of just how small he was

Three Weeks Old

 Three Weeks Old.  This was around the time I found out I had C. Diff (a very contagious stomach bacteria) so I wouldn’t be allowed to visit him until it was gone

One month old

               One month old.  This photo broke my heart.           For not being there, and b/c he looks miserable and I wish I could hold him.

FaceTime with him always saved me from whatever health nonsense I went through

FaceTime with him always saved me from whatever health nonsense I went through

Back Together after two weeks apart

Back Together after two weeks apart.  I missed him so much!!!! 

Beautiful art given to Joaquin

Beautiful art given to Joaquin to spruce up his lodgings at the NICU.  We didn’t know how much longer he’d have to be there.

6 weeks old

6 weeks old.  

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8 weeks old and almost ready to come home!

8 weeks old and almost ready to come home!

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On our way to pick up Joaquin from his last day at the NICU

On our way to pick up Joaquin from his last day at the NICU

First time in his car seat

First time in his car seat

His NICU nurses

His NICU nurses on the day he left.  Everyone was so helpful and loving.  It was such an emotional day

Home Day 1.  Sept 6th 2015

Home Day 1. Sept 6th 2015

This was taken on Sept 7th, the day he was originally supposed to be born. Just over 4 lbs and not quite fitting into any of his clothes

This was taken on Sept 7th, the day he was originally supposed to be born. Just over 4 lbs and not quite fitting into any of his clothes

He received a welcome letter from the Obamas!!

He received a welcome letter from the Obamas!!

Our first walk around the neighborhood

Our first walk around the neighborhood

One week home

One week home and getting comfy

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Starting to learn all his cute faces

3 months old

3 months old and he lost the top part of his hair 🙂

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3 months old. 1 month home. It’s slowly getting easier. We had such a difficult transition into parenthood. I was still struggling with my health, Sasha caught a flu, our A/c went out during a heat wave, I didn’t get more than an hour of sleep at a time for a couple of weeks until my mom came to the rescue and stayed with us for 3 weeks. But his little face always gave me strength to keep going.              It still does.  

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Play time

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Slowly getting used to this parenthood thing!

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We’re tired, but we’re making it work.  As I prep for a surgery next month, we’ve had to hire some help to assist us with Joaquin.  This is a huge financial sacrifice for us, but it gives me the opportunity to rest and strengthen up before surgery.  It’s a small surgery where they will remove roughly 10 lymph nodes from under my right arm to check for any remnants of cancer that may have survived the chemo. It means I won’t be able to use my arm for around 3 – 6 weeks.  Impossible to think of when it seems I need 5 arms to care for Joaquin! But we’re making it work with the help of some incredibly generous friends and family.  We’ve been blown away by the amount of  support we’ve been receiving from so many.  It is especially meaningful to see our busiest friends and family take time out of their hectic lives to help us out when we need it most.

Thank you for checking in!

So much love,

vivian

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3 thoughts on “Hero Joaquin – 3 Month Update/Catch Up/Recap!

  1. Melissa Smith Baker says:

    Dear Vivian,

    Loved all of this blog post. Thanks for the detailed update — and do let me know what’s up with your health. Send out another post about it, please. Thanks.

    Good luck with your upcoming procedure.

    I’m always sending you my love.

    The photos of baby Joaquin are just adorable!!!!!

    Love and light, Melissa xo

    Melissa Smith Baker, MA Relationship Educator and Author mel@lovingforkeeps.com 707-827-1660 http://www.lovingforkeeps.com

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    • vivavivian says:

      Thanks, Melissa! Health is getting better by the day! So far, it looks as though the tumor is gone (it’s not showing up in scans) but to be sure, they are removing 10 lymph nodes to test for cancer at the cellular level. We’re hoping there’s nothing there and Incan continue recovering, other possibilities are radiation or more chemo. Other than that, my health is great! 🙂

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  2. Mara Langer says:

    So glad to hear you are all on the mend and creating a new normal. It’s a tough transition for everyone, you my dear, have had a rocky road indeed, however your positive attitude, love and support of family and friends, will take you to the next milestone.

    Stay strong, be positive and live life each day to the fullest!!

    Warm Regards,
    Mara

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